It has been a long time since I have visited you. I apologize about my neglect. Tonight, I watched MTV's Jersey Shore and the show visited the topic of, Should you tell a friend if you knew that his or her, boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on them?
Background: Last year MTV in its creative genious decided to follow 7 lives as they enjoyed a summer on the Jersey shore. All of the 7 are Italian young adults who live in New Jersey. The show was filled with long nights of partying, occasional fights among roommates, a drama filled showmance that has carried into season 2, and last but most definitely not least, the show even touched on physical abuse of women, when "Shnooki", was attacked in a bar by a random male customer.
This season MTV relocated the show to Miami, and the show has been filled with Drama, Clubbing, random sex, Drama, clubbing, random sex, and well, you get the point. Now enter, the subjects of this blog. Ronnie and Sammi are two young adults who started dating on the first season of the show. After the first season of the show it was reported that they were breaking up. You can read more about that by googling their names. Now, the second season of the show has started and at the begining of the season they were not really speaking to one another, however, like CARELESS adults, they made a decision to try dating again, and have been fighting ever since.
NOW OUR FEATURE PRESENTATION: Ever since the decision was made that they were going to get back together Ronnie has been "doing him". One night in a club he double kissed two girls, he gave his phone number to some shot girl, and there are even internet rumors circulating that he has "hooked-up" with girls in restrooms. Now, there would be no issue here if he was alone, but to behave in the fashion and manner that he has been behaving in front of other women who live in the same house, and are friends with his girlfriend, is out right bold! This man thinks he is on top of his game. SIDE COMMENTARY: Men always think that women are stupid and that women will never stand up for one another. (BUZZ) That is where men make their mistake. Yes, there are a few women who will side with men, but those women are women who have no choice. (THINK ABOUT IT) Ladies, will always have their girlfriends back. So now back to our drama, on one of their nights out Shnooki was witness to Ronnies shananigans, and felt really bad that she had seen him behave the way he did, and then he went home and crawled right into bed with Sammi. So fast forward a few episodes, Shnooki and another female in the house, J WOW, yes that is her name, decided that it would be a good idea to write Sammi an annonymous letter explaining to her what they have seen.
The two girls wrote the letter, and decided to drop it in her drawer with her belongings for her to find. On tonights episode she found the letter, and I will not entertain her stupidy of asking people who wrote the letter. She was more concerned with who wrote the letter, than she was with the facts that were outlined in the letter.
Her behavior leads me to my question, "Would you tell a friend if you knew their boyfriend or girlfriend was cheating?" My answer is, NO! I would not tell a friend if I knew that he or she was being cheated on, and here is why. There is no way that anyone who is being cheated on can say that they are completely blind to it. Cheaters can only cover up their lie, for so long, after a while it begins to fall apart, and the other person in the relationship if they are on their game can pick-up easily on what's going on.
I believe that we are in a day and age, where people believe that some companionship is better than none at all, and this is a sad realization of our society. I have always heard my girlfriends say "I am better off alone." The truth is that you really can do bad all by yourself. You dont need no other monkey to bring you down. Sammi, handled herself very immaturely in this situation. Who cares who wrote the letter. Deal with the issues in the letter, becasue those issues hurt you. The fact that somewhat wrote a letter to you is not the issue, but because she is so scared to deal with her issues, she is on a witch hunt for someone who was trying to save her from embarassment. I honestly think she more upset about the letter, than she was about the night Ronnie called her a "bitch." (Yes he is sick, but she is off the deep end. His mama would have gotten a call that would have been telling her to get her black dress ready.)
So my advice to you is to NOT tell your friends if you know. Most people will turn it against you and say that you are using it for your own personal gratification, and will do everything in their power to remove your credibility.
A victim is someone who allows themselves to continuously be put through the same circus with the same results. A dear friend of mine also says that this is the same definition of insanity. Its amazing how these two states of being go hand-in-hand.
There are probably some parts of this blog that dont make too much sense, but feel free to email me with your questions, comments, and concerns.
Remember to Live, Love, and Laugh!
Kindrick
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